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Thursday, Dec. 14th 2017

7 Ways To Overcome Self Doubt

In the world we live in today, with perfect images portrayed around us there is much pressure to be perfect. In fact we can not escape it. We are constantly being judged on our appearance or for the choices we make in our lives. There is much energy and focus in not wanting to put a foot wrong and to always be right. This way of thinking invites pressure and is extremely unrealistic. 
The notion of perfection brings insecurities, which in turn brings self doubt. Nothing is perfect in this realm. We live to experience life and grow our souls, so that one day we can experience this glorious perfection.
With starting and growing a business and various other experiences throuhgout my life I understand what it is like to experience insecurities and self doubt. I’m with you, in the belief that we should be able to express ourselves authentically and make choices free of judgement. The freedom to be who we are. 
When plagued with feelings of insecurities and self doubt, I have turned to a variation of the following methods to overcome those negative feelings, and subsequently heal. Here are seven methods you can use to help you overcome the feeling of self-doubt when plagued with insecurities.  

1). Take The First Step

The best way to overcome fear is to do! Start by doing what you are good at, and do it well. And before you say, “but I’m not good at anything…” stop right there! You are as everybody is good at something, so find it and do it, doing it well. 

2). Stop Replaying The Voice In Your Head

Always know that you are in control of your thoughts. You have the power to think and find the positive in any given situation and think positively about that something. There is alway a positive in a situation, you may not know it at the time. Although there may be more negative around in your circumstances, recognize when the voice arises and replace it with something positive. I’ve come to recognize the voice by it’s negative. Be aware when “what if’s, and I can’t” come up. Naturally we are positive and through circumstances and experiences our lens may become distorted, so know when a negative thought arises, it isn’t really you. When that occurs, replace it with a positive affirmation. 

3). Use Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations are a great way to dispel the voice in your head. “I Am” statements are so very very powerful. I have a sticky note on my bathroom mirror which I read to myself each morning that says, “see the flowers not the weeds. Just smile, just breath.” Set alerts four times a day, 9am, 12pm, 3pm, and 6pm which flash up on your phone. The first being, “only love today.” You’d be surprised how helpful they are. They always seem to spring up at just the right time!
You can also, look yourself in the mirror and just say to yourself, the positive opposite of whatever negative is being replayed in your mind. For example if you are having insecurities about your cognitive abilities, simply repeat over and over, “I am intelligent.”  For it is said, “I Am to the Universe is like a genie is to a bottle.” Believe it, when you speak it, and it will actualize.  

4). Keep A Journal

Keeping a journal is a great way to release negative vibes and arrange the thoughts in ones mind. Showing gratitude is a wonderful way to help overcome short comings and helps you look on the brighter side of life. Writing at least one thing you are grateful for each day will bring about contentment.  

5). Find Someone To Talk Too

Bouncing ideas off another person with a positive outlook has always been a good way to construct and arrange ones thoughts. It is also a great way for seeing if one is over reacting for feeling a certain way. Two heads are better than one and having a fresh set of positive eyes on a situation is extremely enlightening.  

6). Read Self Help Books

We should always be in a state of wanting to grow and better ourselves. Acquiring knowledge is a trait that will improve ones life. I grew up with the notion, “knowledge is power.” There are many books that can help us grow. A New Earth, Awakening to your life’s purpose. Authored by, Eckhart Tolle is fabulous. The Happiness Advantage. Authored by Shawn Anchor, is another. Even Mitch Albom’s classic, The five people you meet in heaven. But my all time favorite is Neale Donald Walsch’s, Conversations With God: An Uncommon Dialogue (Trilogy). A true masterpiece which will have you centered in no time. 

7). Adopt A Spiritual Practice

There is something bigger than us out there. A powerful force omnipotent, always wanting to help and connect. Simply having the notion that there is a force greater than us, working for our best interests is uplifting. Believing that this powerful force helps provide us with faith and hope to be able to combat the tumultuous times helps us to overcome obstacles, helps us to love, and helps us to heal.
Meditation is another great practice that will quiet the mind and leave you feeling balanced, less stressed, and more at peace.
At one point or another I have used all of these methods at once, or the best practice to fit my hardship at the time. With the use of these methods, regularly you will be on the road to positivity and sustained healing in no time. Good luck! 
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